We don’t resent ya’ll so members get a bonus Been Here Movement class this month and non-members get one as a treat. Scroll down for the playlist to pair it with or to just zone out and make your list of resentments to. Whatever feels good. Members it’s up on the site as well if you don’t want to dig through substacks later.
Shortly after recording this episode stumbled upon this from the New York Time’s Ethicist
Here’s a simple moral idea: We’re entitled, absent special considerations, to feel and to express resentment when we are wronged. Indeed, you aren’t treating people as responsible for their acts if you don’t respond to them with the appropriate “reactive attitudes,” as the philosopher Peter Strawson called feelings like resentment.
Resentment as a responsible treatment for acts when we are wronged feels like a radical reframe doesn’t it? Less like this ugly thing we’re carrying it’s on us to get over. No it’s a natural response. It’s really nice when the philosophers hash it out and put it succinctly for us all isn’t it?
What do you resent? Is it because you feel wronged?
Let the great airing of resentments commence (half jk), see you next week.
xoxo,
A+N
Ways to let it go
Negative sentiment override, sounds sexy it’s not
Anger and resentment seem to hold hands + this book has a lot of fans of it
“Expressions of anguish or outrage are muted, deadened as if a nerve had been cut.” Maybe if we expressed more of how we felt in the moment we’d build up less resentment in the long run….a beautiful Joanna Macy essay. She's 93 and knows a thing or two for context if you’re unfamiliar with her work.
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